Anniversary
I am sorry that I haven't had a lot of time to post lately as I am getting ready to go on a cruise with my husband to celebrate our 15th wedding anniversary.
Don't ever let anyone tell you that marriages cannot work out.
My husband was my first and only boyfriend. I was a National Merit Commended Scholar and had been offered several scholarships to colleges. We chose to anticipate our wedding night and I discovered I was pregnant. I could have had an abortion, in fact, my father was 'heavily encouraging' me to do so.
Many people told me I was going to ruin my life by marrying my husband. They told me my life would be hard.
I won't lie to you. It HAS been difficult. I had a lot of growing up to do. I had to do it WHILE I was raising (eventually) two babies. My husband had a lot of growing up to do also. The thing is, now that we have gone through all these battles together, our marriage is SO incredibly strong. I wouldn't trade my husband for anything. Not that he is perfect, he isn't. But, then again, I am not perfect either. It would be hypocritical of me to expect more from him than I do from myself.
If I had compounded my bad choices by making more bad choices (abortion, single parenthood, divorce) I wouldn't have my husband in my life today and I am very blessed to have him. I have joked with friends that I finally have him 'trained' so why would I want to trade him in? The fact is, that we haven't been 'trained'...we have grown into knowing one another. If you give up too soon, you are just going to go through the same things in another relationship. You are only putting off the inevitable.
If you are feeling like you are ready to give up on your marriage and your husband is not abusive...work on your marriage. You will eventually be very happy that you did.
Don't ever let anyone tell you that marriages cannot work out.
My husband was my first and only boyfriend. I was a National Merit Commended Scholar and had been offered several scholarships to colleges. We chose to anticipate our wedding night and I discovered I was pregnant. I could have had an abortion, in fact, my father was 'heavily encouraging' me to do so.
Many people told me I was going to ruin my life by marrying my husband. They told me my life would be hard.
I won't lie to you. It HAS been difficult. I had a lot of growing up to do. I had to do it WHILE I was raising (eventually) two babies. My husband had a lot of growing up to do also. The thing is, now that we have gone through all these battles together, our marriage is SO incredibly strong. I wouldn't trade my husband for anything. Not that he is perfect, he isn't. But, then again, I am not perfect either. It would be hypocritical of me to expect more from him than I do from myself.
If I had compounded my bad choices by making more bad choices (abortion, single parenthood, divorce) I wouldn't have my husband in my life today and I am very blessed to have him. I have joked with friends that I finally have him 'trained' so why would I want to trade him in? The fact is, that we haven't been 'trained'...we have grown into knowing one another. If you give up too soon, you are just going to go through the same things in another relationship. You are only putting off the inevitable.
If you are feeling like you are ready to give up on your marriage and your husband is not abusive...work on your marriage. You will eventually be very happy that you did.
posted by Dancer | 4:37 PM
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